lauantai 23. joulukuuta 2023

For transvestites about social ways

 I guess that quite many who feel inclined toward being a transvestite, have misinterpreted quite many social ways.

If someone tends to come momentarily clise to you when you seem interested in women's clothes or the like, it is usually because they consider clothes a hobby typical to many women, so they come momentarily to say that if you are interested in clothes, here is one piece of fabric, is that what you like? So you are offered such glimpses like to a child interested in something in which the child or beginner does not have much such experidnce. So it is öike a hobby, and it is not allowed behavipur otherwise, for example simple by wearing women's clothes, since it is behaviour of the teacher or more experienced dtudent of a hlbby group toward a passer-by interested in having such a hobby. 

If someone made an impression on you by being of the opposite sex and coming close, it is a sexual relation between you two. It isn't some general right of all of the opposite gender to dominate over your own sex. So if you change gender, you do not gain any of such rights toward anyone. If you find a new date that clearly likes you as a date, that is a sexual situation, but such propably does not change from the old times. Someone us dominant if you like such company, such strenghrs and such wsy of being social, such types of people. It isn't so toward all. Because you felt it to be natural, you did not resist like people resist those they do not want near. And so your social environment coukd not help you out of it, it was your feelings toward him and the experience of others says that they cannot stop it in the future either  since you just react to him ss if did matter a lot what he did or said etc, and did not care so much about others, so you were just close by your own feelings, which means that you somehow liked such life more than just passing by, you felt that you wanna learn sich lufe skills or have such company. And so it is no right of you to dominate over anyone or to go clise to anyone. There are also other reasons why people interest, like for examole kuds and ypunger generation, news etc in the medua, many kinds of things that people do for a professiln, and it surely does not mean that you had any right yo claim yourself right to be clise to them or have any right over them, even if you guess that if you change gender you would be more interesting to yourself. 

What clothes to wear and what style of things to use, depends on the person and on the situation. Basic advice is that the clithes should fit the lufe you wanna live and be ok for the things done. So then there is the wuestion if style. If one has infoors just table, stools and square forms and straight lines, that typically isn't good for the kntellect or for feeling well. So one would need more complex forms that are good for the intellect and good for things done. Straight lines and square forms aren't good for the need of varuation in life. So many long for something which would make lufe work well, like music, some green plants on window, a carpet, a sofa or a good stool, maybe some picture on walls etc. Of these there are many kibds, so what woukd be good for you? Often one's hobbies and other liked things are good at home. Sometimes lufe us so scarce that one needs lots of nice things at home. Then it comed to whether those look so good idea in the eyes of others or at times with fifferent kind of life. If there is some art or slowly done handiworks at home, it may happen that it sliws down life, and so one sometimes would throw away much of it or just put it on the storage, and so one coukd gain a clearer more speedy head. So how much do you need each area of lufe and what is the good skill level, vuewpoint, values etc? Similarly of social ways. There isn't a certain one option for all. Most like for example a sofa and some music, nice clothes etc. If others do not offer them to you, you have to take care of such by yourself, which is tupical situation for women.