lauantai 22. lokakuuta 2016

Finding a comfortable gender role

From my text about healthy natural ways of living

"173. If one tries to live according to a more sexual reputation than what one feels right and natural for oneself, one easily feels agitated and tired since the relationships and life do not work out as well as they should. So if one wants to be more sexual with roughly all of the opposite sex to get social contacts work out well, the sex roles are good for that, but one should not take whatever role or the most recommended role but instead find the one that is most natural for oneself, gives best life, is something that you easily fall into on free time, something from which you find good life and nice things to do that just you happent olike, so that you are active and in a good mood with a good spirit and so in associating with people momentarily or going to shops and such, maybe one third of the opposite sex makes you think "Oh a woman" or "Oh a man" somehow handsomely, charmingly, pleasantly and you get well along.
On the other hand if you search for how you yourself would be very sexual and charming, then living Life with a big L, while searching for better life according to the rule "Live and let others live" (see this blog's text about it and it's link), maybe brings such in those circles which you like, to which you want to anchor your life. #

perjantai 21. lokakuuta 2016

Men's role and women's role - Or?

Men often assume that women have some things easier than men and that that depends on women having women's role. On the other hand men assume that men ought to have men's role and so men all the time take care of following men's wole.
But that is not so. The womne who look like having women's role, have all the time taken care of many things that the men do not take care of. So what the men suppose to be women's role is those cultivated things, and those haven't been cultivated just a little and only lately, but for years like one's dream job's skills and the like. One can learn skills by practising. Some skills are very difficult and demand other skills as support and an eager interest in the subject itself instead of seeking for social position or other benefits from practising it. Womanly skills are often such.
On the other hand men keep to the men's role. But that is not men's role. That is instead being social with and sticking to the ways, values and ways of thinking of some group of men, of some people who live in a certain way, so it is wanting to belong to a group and taking always or often care of the groups characteristical things even when it means neglecting other things.

But like with different professions, women do not have always all men's skills even if they appear to have some more advanced quality or skill. Like with often advanced skills, some act them or copy them without proper idea or without proper quality in everything and try to assume the role of the most skilled ones without being moral and skilled enough.