The clishee like picture of men is often from a perspective of not much understanding about men, either because one oneself is a woman and lives a different kind of life, or because one is a man and lives a narrow life of work and work aquiantages and does not know about the wider possibilities in life. So such clishes often mention work and army, maybe schooling but not so much else.
There are also men in men's professions who are kind of fed up with doing things always the same way, so they tend to make clishes about what men's lifves and men's perspective can deteriorate into in engineering work or so, but that is not a guide to follow, it is intended more like a warning.
I am a woman. I think that women and men have lots of common characteristics and the society has lots of wisdom that is suited for both, so both should consider themselves first humans and only secondarily of certain gender, in order to take advantage of the benefits given by the society's culture. Men I think ought in addition cultivate certain skills so as to not to ruin things by not being able to some everyday thing needed in life, but only part of the time since trying to culticvate some skill all the time makes one tired and so one does not learn it. Men should not compete in these, since competition makes one centered in points instead of in the thing itself and it's place in the world. Common sense is needed, likewise basic sports for fun to increase capacity. Often life is easier when all can instead of when you kind of won. A soldier is just one among many, in the service of one's country but as a human being, as a member of the society you can be one in guiding what is done in the society, in matters of peace and war, so your soldier part needs you human part to command it.
lauantai 19. joulukuuta 2015
perjantai 27. helmikuuta 2015
Some basic wisdom
It appears that women have some basic wisdom about life and skills that we take into avccount all the time but which boys and men mostly lack. Here are some points that came to my mind.'
The body should be kapt naturally, like is good for skills, social eye and for my freedom to be myself with my emotions, characterm pace of life, with each moment's things to do, it's atmosphere and my feelings, the demands of wisdom of life and of skills at large. It should not be kept like copying from others looks or style, nothing artificial like engineer like looks or soldier looks or looks like build from wood with straight lines, square boxes etc. Instead one should understand that body and mind work together, so that jkeeping the body relaxedly reactively keeps the minds open to many more possibilities and to higher skills especially via emotoins being expressed in the body language.
Feelings give strenght. Not following feelings produces weakness, malfunctions and brokenness. (Malfunctions are not at all strong, have weak sides and produce prokenness in the longer term.) Feeling individual is strong and wise and very skilled.
Moral brings higher skill if one does not neglect feelings, free time fun and freedom.
The body should be kapt naturally, like is good for skills, social eye and for my freedom to be myself with my emotions, characterm pace of life, with each moment's things to do, it's atmosphere and my feelings, the demands of wisdom of life and of skills at large. It should not be kept like copying from others looks or style, nothing artificial like engineer like looks or soldier looks or looks like build from wood with straight lines, square boxes etc. Instead one should understand that body and mind work together, so that jkeeping the body relaxedly reactively keeps the minds open to many more possibilities and to higher skills especially via emotoins being expressed in the body language.
Feelings give strenght. Not following feelings produces weakness, malfunctions and brokenness. (Malfunctions are not at all strong, have weak sides and produce prokenness in the longer term.) Feeling individual is strong and wise and very skilled.
Moral brings higher skill if one does not neglect feelings, free time fun and freedom.
lauantai 8. kesäkuuta 2013
Additional remarks
As I come to think of why girls learn greater skill than boys, I come to think of some not-so-obvious reasons that still may have a big effect:
Traditionally women have sewn clothes for both women and men. As typically happens when pals work together and make things both for themselves and for some others who never take part in these things, they choose the nice stylish clothes for themselves and to not-so-good somehow ugly looking they give to others saying "You can use these." and "Men's style is supposed (that is just an excuse) to look somewhat ugly."
It would be better for men if they too could take care of their clothes and choose their style and colour symbolism to suyit their own character and values. That way they could better find a social role that works well for themselves.
Typically there is the obstacle that men lack skill in choosing clothes. Probably that is a consequence of the fact that the starting point, the suggestion of what to wear is somehow erraneous, suggesting things that others burden men with and not the emotional inclinations and inner life and personal values of the men themselves. For Finnish speaking Finnish men a good starting point could be brown trousers and a blue shirt, maybe something red too. Practical life, thinking helping on the way and feelings valued. From such a starting point it maybe would be easier to make one's own variation.
Girls at an early age take the role take women give birth to new life. That is a huge thing, a miracle produced. So it teaches the girls to achieve great things. Nurturing others and caring for the life in the society are other versions of the same idea, all very benefical to the society.
If boys answer to this that boys build things, it is much much much simple, much much much more stupid things done, so it produces stupidity. Boys should think of things done fort better life in the society, life in it's complexity - be it a car mechanics sertvice, children upbringing, selling some product that is nice to have, being friends and neighbours or working for the good of the society in some other way. Those are all much more complex thing. Life according to our nature, like the wild nature teaches us, is much more complex and brings better intelligence.
Boys le3arn that soldiers need to endure pain and hardship. So they often take as their goal to "not to even notice such thing". But not to notice means being utterly stupid, so it is a very poor goal. Instead one should gain strenght via healthy natural wa6ys of living on all areas of life and endure via wisdom and wisdom of life, friendsip, moral etc.
Traditionally women have sewn clothes for both women and men. As typically happens when pals work together and make things both for themselves and for some others who never take part in these things, they choose the nice stylish clothes for themselves and to not-so-good somehow ugly looking they give to others saying "You can use these." and "Men's style is supposed (that is just an excuse) to look somewhat ugly."
It would be better for men if they too could take care of their clothes and choose their style and colour symbolism to suyit their own character and values. That way they could better find a social role that works well for themselves.
Typically there is the obstacle that men lack skill in choosing clothes. Probably that is a consequence of the fact that the starting point, the suggestion of what to wear is somehow erraneous, suggesting things that others burden men with and not the emotional inclinations and inner life and personal values of the men themselves. For Finnish speaking Finnish men a good starting point could be brown trousers and a blue shirt, maybe something red too. Practical life, thinking helping on the way and feelings valued. From such a starting point it maybe would be easier to make one's own variation.
Girls at an early age take the role take women give birth to new life. That is a huge thing, a miracle produced. So it teaches the girls to achieve great things. Nurturing others and caring for the life in the society are other versions of the same idea, all very benefical to the society.
If boys answer to this that boys build things, it is much much much simple, much much much more stupid things done, so it produces stupidity. Boys should think of things done fort better life in the society, life in it's complexity - be it a car mechanics sertvice, children upbringing, selling some product that is nice to have, being friends and neighbours or working for the good of the society in some other way. Those are all much more complex thing. Life according to our nature, like the wild nature teaches us, is much more complex and brings better intelligence.
Boys le3arn that soldiers need to endure pain and hardship. So they often take as their goal to "not to even notice such thing". But not to notice means being utterly stupid, so it is a very poor goal. Instead one should gain strenght via healthy natural wa6ys of living on all areas of life and endure via wisdom and wisdom of life, friendsip, moral etc.
tiistai 2. huhtikuuta 2013
Lots of interest & lack of skill
Men love women, marry, live tens of years as a family and form deeper bonds than with anyone else. So there clearly is lots of interest in women's ways and lots of good will to allow a happy harmonical life together with women.
Where there are problems, they are typically caused by the fact that men do not understand women's ways. Boys are taught different things and nothing about women's cultural wisdom. If men were less dominant, they would need to learn more about women's views, but now thye never get the chance.
But here are lots of links about skills typical for women's culture:
Women are almost perfectionistic: they are demanded a lot, to satisfy the likings of others in addition to their own, so they need to be able to take into account many things at the same time, and that is easiest via a picture of the whole -> thinking with a picture of the whole http://Finnishskills.blogspot.fi http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAEA9BB35AAEB5E53
Which often leads to good moral -> high moral http://feelingcomputers.blogspot.fi http://healthilymoral.blogspot.fi
Also social skills are needed in this -> social skills http://Finnishskills.blogspot.fi
High skills http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL7D62DC0BA8A65930
Wisdom of the feelings http://feelingcomputers.blogspot.fi http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL5413BA37709C0F53 http://happinesstipsblog.blogspot.fi
Social skills http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL833A6D6CF7D286B7
Where there are problems, they are typically caused by the fact that men do not understand women's ways. Boys are taught different things and nothing about women's cultural wisdom. If men were less dominant, they would need to learn more about women's views, but now thye never get the chance.
But here are lots of links about skills typical for women's culture:
Women are almost perfectionistic: they are demanded a lot, to satisfy the likings of others in addition to their own, so they need to be able to take into account many things at the same time, and that is easiest via a picture of the whole -> thinking with a picture of the whole http://Finnishskills.blogspot.fi http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAEA9BB35AAEB5E53
Which often leads to good moral -> high moral http://feelingcomputers.blogspot.fi http://healthilymoral.blogspot.fi
Also social skills are needed in this -> social skills http://Finnishskills.blogspot.fi
High skills http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL7D62DC0BA8A65930
Wisdom of the feelings http://feelingcomputers.blogspot.fi http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL5413BA37709C0F53 http://happinesstipsblog.blogspot.fi
Social skills http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL833A6D6CF7D286B7
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